I recently watched a podcast by Bovi hosted by Dear Ife, and one thing he said stayed in my head long after the conversation ended. He said love and marriage were never supposed to feel like a lifetime contract. According to him, marriages should have an expiry date, and after a certain number of years, couples can decide whether they still want to continue together and renew their vows.
At first, it sounded strange to me. Marriage has always been presented as something permanent. Once you enter it, that is supposed to be forever. But the more I thought about what he said, the more I realized it opens up a deeper conversation about love, commitment, society, and even human nature itself.
The discussion also touched on monogamy. Monogamy simply means being committed to one partner at a time, emotionally or sexually. In today’s society, it is seen as the normal and acceptable structure for relationships and marriage. But Bovi described monogamy as a social construct, and honestly, I understand what he meant by that.
When people say something is a social construct, they mean it is an idea shaped by society over time, not necessarily something humans were naturally born to follow. Rules around relationships were created to help organize society — things like inheritance, family structure, religion, responsibility, and social order. In many ways, monogamy helped keep society balanced and controlled.
Personally, I think monogamy works better for a sane and organized society. One man and one wife creates more stability, especially when family and children are involved. It reduces confusion and competition in relationships. Even though people may naturally desire different things emotionally or physically, society itself depends on structure to function properly.
Another thing I picked from the podcast, was when Bovi said there is no such thing as polygamy in the Bible. I stand to be corrected, but I do not completely agree with that statement. The Bible actually contains several examples of polygamy. Men like Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon had multiple wives or concubines. So historically, polygamy clearly existed in biblical societies.
At the same time, even if polygamy existed, many people still see monogamy as the ideal choice because it promotes emotional stability and deeper commitment. Maybe that is why most modern societies encourage it so strongly.
The idea of marriages having an expiry date is still something I am thinking deeply about. On one hand, it sounds realistic because people change with time. Feelings change, priorities change, and sometimes people grow apart. Maybe renewing a marriage by choice every few years could make love feel more intentional instead of forced.
But on the other hand, I also feel like permanence is part of what makes marriage meaningful. Knowing you are committed to someone despite difficult moments is what gives marriage weight and value. If relationships become temporary by design, people may stop fighting to make things work.
I do not think there is one perfect answer to this conversation. But I think podcasts like this are important because they force us to question the things society has taught us for years. Maybe love is not as simple as we make it seem. Maybe humans are still trying to figure out the balance between freedom, commitment, and stability.